A lovely mentor of mine shared great insight into what it takes to succeed in life. I don’t particularly recall how we got on the subject matter, however, she mentioned something extremely interesting that I just had to share with your guys. Imgs via:one
Her perspective was on the distinctive difference between her three mentees and it was this, that led me to think of the ‘defining elements’ that contribute to people’s success in life. Or moreover, their failures. It is not so much that her mentees lacked what it took to make it in life.Far from it, it was simply her explanation and definition of each of the mentee’s characteristics & habits that meant that they were likely to have different outcomes in life. With either each being:
a) Extremely successful in life
b) Living an average life and not achieving the full potential
c) Never really achieving much in life
Lisa began her interesting take on things by describing her first mentee. Who was in her late twenties, had been to university, had a full-time job and worked hard on starting her own business. Her dream was to become a successful business woman by the age of thirty-five.Lisa described her as a person that can ‘find gold in the mud’- “she will dig and dig and dig until she finds something” and make something out of nothing. Naturally, I was intrigued and needed to know what she meant by this statement. I progressed by asking how she had reached this conclusion.She carried on to state that despite her first mentee not being the brightest (academically) of the three, she had more of an ability to become the most successful.>
She expressed that her first mentee was street-smart. She was a grafter and had a passion for succeeding. She was always willing to work hard for her dream and find the answers to any problem she encountered. Either by thinking outside of the box, enquiring, being curious or reading.No matter the challenge, she always seemed to find a way out and a way of getting closer to her goals. Whenever she had nothing, she would utilise the little that she had and multiply it into something more.Lisa concluded that such attributes were the makings of someone destined for success. Listening to this made me think of the greats. Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Mark Zuckerberg – to name just a few- that started empires with little to nothing yet managed to achieve great success in their lifetime.
Are you a ‘grafter?
The grafter is the person that exercises self-discipline, finds solutions to problems and gets things done. If you happen to relate to this type, then you are on the road to success. You simply need to concentrate on enhancing those already existing skills by investing in your learning and knowledge.
A great place to start is by reading as much as you can in order to continually sharpen that desire to succeed. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey is highly recommended on the top ten books for success.
The Academic Intellect
Lisa continued her analysis by introducing her thoughts on her second mentee, who had recently qualified as an Engineer. She was bright, beautiful with great prospects ahead of her. On paper, she had it all.However, there was simply one problem. She lacked the drive to go after what she wanted. She wasn’t what you would class as a ‘go-getter.’
And despite being intellectually smart and accomplishing a lot in her education, she wasn’t ‘street-smart‘ and couldn’t adapt to the real world of getting things done. This manifested itself into a cycle of procrastination. Not applying for as many jobs as she could have done, not implementing the skills>
she needed in order to sell herself during job interviews and so forth. Any advice offered to her made no impact as she lacked the ability to utilise everything she had in possession (the education and brains) into something greater. In Lisa’s words, ‘she was the type of person that was likely to starve with food in her hand.’A powerful insight into one of the habits that can deter us from reaching our full potential despite having everything we need to get there.
Are you ‘the Academic Intellect?’
The Academic Intellect is naturally blessed with intelligence and opportunities that others don’t usually have access to. But, unless they personally make the most of these gifts, success will be far off the lane for them to attain.
Procrastination happens to be one of the biggest downfalls for most. Tackling this will help the ‘academic intellect’ match their intelligence with practicality and getting things done.A great place to start if you are a procrastinator is by reading – No Excuses – The Power of Self-Discipline for Success in Your Life By Brian Tracey. The book outlines the best techniques of prioritising and challenges readers to stop making excuses that simply act as deterrents on the journey to success
Everyone has a dream, but how many people are willing to work hard for it and put in the endless hours – with zero pay at times?A dream unmatched with persistence, hard work and determination leads to nothing substantial. Lisa’s third mentee comes under the category of the ‘dreamer.’ With an entrepreneurial spirit and dreams of owning a global technology company.>
he somehow lacked the capacity of making this a reality and was never prepared to do what it took to get to where he wanted to be.
He glorified the dream more than he was willing to work hard for it. In Lisa’s mind, he was more of a ‘dreamer’ than he was a ‘doer.’And by doing the bare minimal, his chances of reaching his full potential were significantly halved.
Are you ‘the Dreamer’
The ‘dreamer’ has lots of hopes for the future. He may not necessary be the smartest, most intelligent or even the most educated. But he certainly has a dream and an interest in entrepreneurship.However, like most cases, there are plenty of factors that stand in the way of dreamers and identifying these is critical to progression.Indecisiveness, being overly cautious, unfocused, placing too much emphasis on the dream rather than actually doing the actual work needed to make it work, are all things that can prevent a dream from materialising.As a dreamer, you want to concentrate on your weak links and effectively deal with these before you can get anywhere with your goals. Otherwise, you leave yourself at risk of being in ‘dreaming phase’ for a very long time without actually anything.
So after this conversation, I wanted to ask you guys, what type of person do you think you are? If you can relate to any of Lisa’s mentee’s then share your comments, opinions, and any other tips others can use.